Monday, November 16, 2009

Principles of Influence

1.   Reciprocity  - They have done good to me, so I will do good to them
2. Social proof – Everyone is doing so, therefore I too will do good to them
3. Authority – If “He/She” is doing it, I will also do good to them
4. Likeability – I like them, so I will do it for them
5. Commitment and consistency - They are committed and consistent to what they say. Therefore, I will do good to them

Monday, November 2, 2009

Minding thoughts

The limbs were tout and jerking violently. Hands were fiercely clutching the foot of the moving chair. She was lying on the floor, her body convulsing vehemently. She desperately gasped for breath; her chest heaving hard to catch every available whiff of oxygen to hang on to precious life. She could hear every word spoken in comfort or concern, she could see all the frightened faces around, but she lay there helpless and incapacitated, reassuring us through motions of her head indistinguishable from the painful jolts, indicating to us that there was nothing to worry about. Low, gurgling pulls of breaths filled the atmosphere with a profound sombre feeling.

And I was thinking -

Q: Is that an asthmatic attack?
Q: Does anyone have an inhaler?
Q: Should I run into the other office to get an inhaler?
Q: She seemed so normal otherwise. It is shocking that she could suffer from something like this!
Q: Why would God make anyone suffer like this?
Q: Has our modern lifestyle caused this woman to suffer so?
Q: Should we take her to the hospital?
Q: Thank God (?) I have only the Psoriasis.
Q: What if this happens to her while she was driving?
Q: Does she drive her car to work?
Q: What would happen if this happens to her after her marriage?
Q: Would she tell her husband about this before they were married?
Q: Is this why she is still single?
Q: Would she be embarrassed about this once she recovers from this attack?
Q: Is this epileptic attack?
Q: Should I give her something metallic to clutch?
Q: Should I make her smell my shoe?

Then I bent down to hold her feet.

Q: Is it appropriate for me to hold her by the legs?
Q: Would she mind it when she gets normal?
Q: Should I rub her feet?

Then the panting eased. The breaths became longer and the tension in the muscles reduced.
I let go of the grip.

She was alright now. She could now afford a faint smile. She sipped on a glass of water.

I slipped away quietly from the scene.

Perhaps a drop of tear appeared in my eye.

Saturday, October 31, 2009

The path of truth

"Ye ishq nahi aasaan; aag ka dariya hai aur doob ke jaana hai"

This is an oft-repeated line in the social, literary, and entertainment industry in India. Loosely translated, it means that the path of love is not easy, almost akin to a river of fire through which one must immerse oneself fully to go forward.

The concept of "ishq" unlike the most popular connotation associated with it - the one that exists between two unrelated and intimate individuals - is instead a vast concept that can embody love for anything and anyone, even God.

Saints are said to have claimed to be "aashiqs" of the Almighty. Shayars, on the other hand, are said to have proclaimed their "ishq" for liquor. The basic idea, it seems to me, is that of a unadulterated, deeply passionate love for an entity.

The relentless pursuit of one's object of love, as many would have me believe, is fraught with innumerable hardships and that only the most devoted souls will have the courage to overcome them to meet their objectives. Many would fail, I am told, but those who do succeed are said to be truly blessed by the Almighty.

To me, however, this picture is incomplete. If I were to indulge in unfair means to secure the object of my love then would it justify my actions? Does the end justify the means?

I don't think so.

The difficulty in the path of love seems to arise not out of the goal of "love", but out of the "path" itself. There probably are more than one ways to pursue love, some good and some bad, but it is the path that one chooses that decides whether that pursuit of love is revered for ages to come.

As I ponder more about it, I realize that through the timeless love stories we celebrate and idolize not the "love" but the path that was chosen to pursue it.

This path is the path of truth. I will resist from using subjective terms such as good, moral, right etc. Truth in itself is absolute.

Following the path of truth and standing firm on it, as Raja Harishchandra had done, is what I respect. It requires great courage, I believe, to speak, hear and bear the consequences of truth. Lying perhaps is an easier option that I have often chosen to wriggle myself out of situations where the consequences of telling the truth would have been uncomfortable.

Following the path of truth is not equivalent to leading an honest life. In fact, honesty, is a consequence of truthfulness. Again, I would refrain from using subjective terms such as virtuous, moral, pious etc. Honesty, just like Truth, is an absolute entity that cannot be moulded according to one's own interpretation.

To lead one's life with absolute, dedicated, and passionate pursuit of truth while seeking one's objective is what I would call the path of "true love".

Saturday, July 18, 2009

A Difficult Choice

Sankaran had a difficult decision to make. He was looking directly into the picture of his long-dead parents, his eyes almost begging forgiveness for even considering the idea his parents would have taken strong offence against at the slightest mention. All this time he diligently avoided meeting the gaze of Lord Murugan, his beloved deity, staring down at him from the painting atop the little shelf on which perched the photos and paintings of all the Gods and Goddesses that he had grown up worshipping.

The house of Sankaran on Vali street of Thangagramam was a picture in contrast. Among the row of little brick huts, that formed the landscape of this most neglected part of the village, Sankaran’s house was a pathetic mud structure, its roof half-covered with leaves and thatches, and the door ordained by a modest-sized symbol of his faith – . The doors of other houses, on the other hand, displayed large crosses proudly declaring their occupants’ embrace of a faith that claimed to bring them salvation from all the miseries that they had been brought up in and didn’t foresee an escape from in any imaginable future.

Sankaran belonged to the lowliest of all castes in the village’s society – a scavenging caste that, though central to the village eco-system, was always discriminated against. People of his caste were never included in any of the village festivals; they were banned from using common public spaces and utilities, and were not even allowed entry inside the village temple – the only abode of the Lord in whose eyes all men and women, as Sankaran had often heard as a little kid from his parents, were equal and worthy.

The Vali street lay on the outskirts of the village where no one of a nobler birth ever ventured near. It formed a part of the world conveniently forgotten and ignored by everyone else in the village. Centuries after centuries, generations after generations, and rulers after rulers came and went, but Vali street continued to languish in misery and sorrow. Not many had complained though. It was all considered a part of the justice system that God had designed around the actions of all things in this world – the system of Karma.

Sankaran too had been brought up in the same philosophy. His parents had often told him that their birth in the lowest caste was God’s way of punishing them for the bad deeds they had committed in their previous lives and that they must ensure that they lead a life of virtue if they seek salvation from this misery in their next birth. It was their unshakeable faith in this system that even a mention of conversion to another religion, and by that act defy what was ordained for them by God, horrified them to the extreme.

They had led good lives, Sankaran mused, and had died peaceful deaths, all in the unwavering devotion to God and his promise of salvation. But he had his own doubts. Life was becoming increasingly difficult to lead for him and his family. The world, it seemed to him, had moved on much faster than he had. The world that he now witnessed around him wore snazzy clothes, drove fancy cars, and lived in palaces. Deep in his heart he felt cheated by the society, by his parents, and by God for making him believe that he had no place in that new world. He wanted his children to study, wanted to buy them good clothes, wanted them to lead a life of respect, wanted them to be a part of the new world, but he couldn’t do it. He couldn’t afford it. He couldn’t take up any other profession even if he wanted to, not just because he didn’t know anything about anything else other than scavenging, but also because no one would let him. It was almost as if he was tied to a pole by a rope sanctioned by divinity frequently impaled by a spear designed by the society and then forced to keep his mouth shut and accept his agony and pain as his rewards.

But things were changing now. Ten years ago a group of very fair people dressed in a strange attire and speaking a strange language had come to the village. They were indeed strange because they did what was unthinkable for the rest of the villagers – enter Vali street. They knocked on every door, spoke to everyone, and offered everyone clothing, food, and money. And they did this at every house in the street. They had come to Sankaran’s house too, he remembered. Sankaran’s father, his face crimson, his eyes burning with rage, his fists closed, and his mouth uttering expletives that he had never imagined his father would ever utter, had literally driven them out of their house and had sternly warned them to not venture anywhere near his house or his family ever. He had realized later that those were missionaries, who had arrived professing a new God, a new religion, and a new promise of respite from their miseries.

Sankaran’s father may have despised those missionaries but to his dismay the others didn’t share either his reason or his faith in Karma. Slowly but surely, one by one, every family on Vali street deserted the faith of their forefathers and embraced the new faith that had come knocking on their doors. The missionaries promised them new jobs, promised their children education in their schools, promised them the opportunity to break the shackles of their caste that they had been chained with and join the new world taking shape around them. Over the last ten years Sankaran had witnessed some of those promises being fulfilled, and how God, contrary to what he had been made to believe, didn’t seem to mind this apostasy. He had wondered why. Was it that his God was waiting for an opportunity to teach the defectors a lesson? Would he have to face His wrath if he too followed others and accepted the alien faith? He had now his doubts. He was beginning to feel that the God of the missionaries was indeed the real God and that the God he had believed in was nothing but a punitive manifestation of the Upper castes’ desire to subjugate them.

The previous day the pastor from the local chapel had come to visit him. He counseled Sankaran to accept the word of Christ and open the world of opportunities that he had deprived himself of all these years. He left a book and a cross at his house and asked him to come to the chapel and receive the blessings of God.

For the last time, Sankaran looked at his parents’ photograph, his eyes tearful with guilt and shame. He still could not look at the face of Lord Murugan, resplendent and beautiful. He turned around, picked up the book and the cross, paused at the door for a moment pleading for the final time forgiveness from his parents, and then with a determined step, walked out of the door.

Friday, July 3, 2009

Homosexuality and deviant sexual behaviour

Delhi High Court's historic judgment and countless expert-talks and articles on the same notwithstanding, I am, at a personal level, a little skeptical about the homosexual behaviour. I have nothing personal against homosexuals and their sexual preference. They are, in my opinion, and as I have not witnessed anything to the contrary, as harmless(?) as the heterosexuals.

Where my doubts lay are in the "normality" of the whole phenomenon.

To begin with, if the whole phenomenon of "homosexuality" is genetically determined, then one really can't blame the poor chaps for being the way they are. Their destiny was written by God Herself and there is nothing we can do to go against Her wishes.

On the other hand, if it isn't, then the matter obviously needs a different treatment. It no longer becomes a congenital condition but a trait that's acquired over time. This "deviation" then may need to be understood and be treated medically or in any other way deemed fit.

However, that homosexuality may be legalised is the least of my concerns. The question that prompted me to start writing was what happens if "pedophiles", "bestial", and other such "deviant" people start claiming that they are naturally oriented in such ways and that their sexual preferences too may be given legal sanction.

It's a very disturbing question. Perhaps an outrageous one, and an irrelevant one. But a question nevertheless. After all even homosexuality was considered an unmentionable criminal act till not too long ago. Is it not a plausible assumption that modern science is incapable of proving that the rest of the sexual aberrations are a manifestation of one's genetic make-up? What happens if it does?

Do we legalise and accept them? Do we discard the Nature and the God and outlaw these "criminals" from the society?

Any thoughts?

Thursday, July 2, 2009

Lessons of life

There is always something valuable to learn from everyone.

From the good people one learns what to do, and how to be.

From the others, one learns what not to do, and how not to be.

Tuesday, June 9, 2009

Well.. I told you so!

This is from one of the articles in HBR:

"One of the course's textbooks, Made to Stick by Chip and Dan Heath, taught them six attributes that help ideas stick in people's minds: simplicity, unexpectedness, concreteness, credibility, emotions, and stories."

Well.. at least I got one right! :-)

Monday, June 8, 2009

Key to a great idea

I have been thinking about this for some time -

A great idea does not require great level of intellect to be understood.

In fact an idea becomes great only if it is comprehensible by the weakest of human intellect. Only then it find support from every quarter.

Therefore, simplicity is the key to greatness.

Cases in point:

1. Ahimsa by Mahatma Gandhi
2. Communism by Karl Marx
4. All major world religions

Monday, June 1, 2009

It's all black

Not many people may know this but the one astonishing fact that catches a newcomer in Mumbai by surprise is the exorbitant real estate prices. Well, there are other things such as the terrifying sight of a train-shaped sea of humanity that runs up and down the center of the city, the almost incredible tendency of people to stand in a queue even if there were only two people forming it, the presence of representatives of a mind-boggling number of provinces and states of India, and several others which form the entire incredulous experience of an outsider in Mumbai.

But no other issue is more pertinent and more important than the question of finding a roof over one’s head in this vast city. The answer to this one question is so damn difficult that it really stretches not just the purse strings of an individual but also his capacity to live.

I was of course wondering why prices in Mumbai are so ridiculously high and my ever wise younger brother provided a reasonably good explanation for it. There is a concept called parallel GDP – an economic system thriving on the money that is unaccounted in the Government’s books. This is called the Black Money. Indians have over the years becomes experts in evading taxes, accumulating black money, and somehow managing to hold on it and pass it to their future generations.

Mumbai real estate prices I am told and I now strongly believe is the product of the real estate mafia manipulations and black money. With the mafia indiscriminately raising real estate prices, it becomes impossible for honest salaried people to afford a house. However, for people with stashes of black money, it is a good investment since real estate prices only seem to be shooting up. As more black money is thrown into the real estate sector, the higher the prices going up making the latter more unaffordable for the honest salaried kind.

It is not uncommon to find people owning two or more houses in Mumbai. It is not surprising that most such owners are those who are more likely to possess black money. It is unimaginable that a government employee is able to afford a 80-lakhs-house in Mumbai. There are those who own two. I have parents who have worked in the PSU and I know how damn-near-impossible that is.

As long as this black money phenomenon exists, it would only be a dream for an honest salaried person to own a house in Mumbai.

Saturday, May 23, 2009

HRC and a new world

Day before yesterday I had the good fortune of visiting Hard Rock Cafe at Lower Parel, Mumbai (Some people say it’s in Prabhadevi, but that’s a completely different story). What I witnessed was simply amazing. Loud Rock Music, some very beautiful people (you could repeat “very beautiful” a few more times) hustling and bustling about the entire place, all kinds of liquids being passed around, and large TV screens playing the IPL match. The last bit is of the greatest interest to me – nothing is better than sitting with a drink (Fresh Lime Soda – sweet & salt) in hand surrounded by gorgeous women and watching an electrifying cricket match.

What I observed is how alien I felt in the place. Sure, the place was full of Indians yet there was not much that I could identify with the crowd. One, the people seemed to be really affluent, really good-looking, seemed to be anglicized, not just in speech but in appearance and demeanour too, shared a common interest in liquor and rock music (why else would one go to HRC in the first place).

If a European or an American found himself in there that night, he would’ve felt at home instantly. I could as well have replaced the whole bunch with the characters of Archie Comics and it wouldn’t have changed a thing! The only saving grace was the plate of “potato skins” deep fried in oil, something I hope was indianized to cater to our palate.

Would I go there? Yes, of course. Didn’t you read the “very beautiful people” part?

Thursday, May 21, 2009

A new beginning once again

A new place, a new job, a new house, a new city - I almost don't want to do all that again. It happened 5 years ago in Bengalooru when I moved to the city for the first time with just a couple of suitcases.

I spent close to three years in the city slowing building up my "household" with a few worldly possessions until I had to move to the glorious city of Ahmedabad. I gave away some of my stuff, my telephone connection, my gas connection etc. and placed myself snugly in the comforts of a student life.

Now I am back to the square one with a couple of suitcases in tow. The process has to begin all over again. What is perhaps different this time is that I already have an AC, cable and gas connection with the house deal. But I still have to mop and clean my house, wash my clothes, make my own tea etc. At least until I find a maid-servant or she finds me.

There is no water at home and I drink all the water I need in the office before I go home. This coming weekend I will have to fix all those plugs that exist in my new setup. It is, I tell you, Boooooooorrrrrrring! I hate it, but I understand that in order to lead my life in some comfort, I will have to do it again.

I really pity all the government servants who get transferred ever so often. It must truly deeply painful to dismantle and reorganize one's entire household every 2-3 years. The strangest bit is that I never realized it when I was a child and we were moving around the country (both my parents worked in PSU)!

Ah well, such is life!

endnote: While in Bengalooru, I had desisted from purchasing kitchen stuff until my grandmother decided to visit me. This development compelled me to spend Rs. 7000 and equip my kitchen with every conceivable instrument that might be required by my grandmother during her cooking. The entire set is now going to be sent to me by my Mother. It means "washing utensils" will get added to my list of household chores. :-(

Saturday, May 16, 2009

The Sound of Music

Do you remember the song “Bhool Ja” sung by Shaan? In the music video, if you’d noticed, Shaan was sitting in a recording studio singing this song. Today for the first time in my life I got the opportunity to sit inside one such recording studio and the experience I must tell you is simply unbelievable.

Coming from a family that has a long history with music, vocals to be more precise – my parents sing, my grandparents and, I am told, their parents all sang too – it was not a surprise that sooner or later I would find one of my family to be inside one such studio. It has now begun with my father and, boy, was I blown away!

My father by the way is recording a few songs that are expected to come out in the market in the month of August. I am his biggest fan and over the years I have realized more and more what a fantastic singer he is. I have seen him mesmerize audiences, big or small, wherever and whenever he has sung. I have seen people coming up to him with tears in their eyes after having been deeply moved by his rendition of a bhajan or a tragic song. I have seen people literally bless him with innumerable good wishes because he brought some sort of inexplicable joy in their hearts with his renditions.

Today when I heard him sing sitting in the recording studio, I discovered how truly blessed he is (touch-wood!) with a voice so amazing that would be an object of envy to many. The quality of voice, the melody of the music, and the emotions in his singing, all flowing in a divine confluence of music that was just simply breath-taking!

I cannot contain my excitement as I wait for the finished product to come out in the market. I pray to God to bless him with all the success he deserves. All the best, Appa!

The bug list

“Can you see?” asks one of the oracles of held captive by the U.S. Department of Justice in the popular movie Minority Report. A strange question considering that the oracle herself was endowed with good eyesight and could “see”. Yet it wasn’t the actual seeing that she was referring to. She was wondering if she was actually seeing reality – the world as it was.

Most of us are capable of “seeing” things. We have come to regard our sight with so much casualness that we don’t simply attach the importance that needs to be attached to it. That oracle could for the first time see things that were not visions was so frightfully exciting for it. That must tell us how important the power of sight is.

We as humans have been blessed with strong cognitive capacity - the ability to apply thought to concepts, build on them, take actions on them, “evolve”, as it were, not just physically but also intellectually and spiritually. We have the power to apply strong cognitive models to our sensory faculties and develop a more comprehensive and enriching picture of the world around us.
For example, when we see things, we apply our mental energies to understand the image in front of us, what it stands for, what it implies, and how does that affect us. If that doesn’t happen to us then God save us!

However, we must go beyond just the perfunctory duty of seeing things. There is more to seeing than just images forming on the surface of the retina. That is why there exist words such as watch and observe. The word “observe” beautifully describes a higher form of cognitive process that accompanies the process of seeing. It is not just viewing things and trying to understand them. It is going one level beyond that. It is about bringing more value to our lives. An observer builds on his viewing experience and then applies his intellectual power to explore ways in which he can use the visual experience to add more value to a human life.

I recently read about a company called IDEO (http://www.ideo.com) and was blown away by the incredibly innovative work that they do. A book “The art of innovation” has been written on the company and their philosophy. In the book is mentioned an interesting phenomenon called “The Bug List”. It is list of things that designers “see” around them in the world and are unhappy about. The inherent unhappiness drives them to seek better designs in the systems around them thereby continuously adding value to the society.

A typical observer, they say, would view a queue at a railway station ticket window and try to figure out how he/she can improve the process. An observer would view the flowing traffic outside the window of his house and wonder how to improve the traffic system, or how to reduce the burden on roads, or how to move to a more efficient public transport system etc.

I think every human can “see” the world in this new way. Every human can and must do justice their human-ness and strive to add more value to the society and the world. Only then we may deserve any bit of the pride that we associate with us being Humans.

Friday, May 15, 2009

The importance of being a practitioner

The world loves a practitioner. A highly generalized and perhaps grossly misplaced statement, some may say. What does the word “practitioner” convey? An instinctive answer to the question might be that a practitioner is the one who practices. Yes and No. A practitioner does practice but that’s all not what he does. A practitioner’s practice is characterized by the depth of his practice as much as the width of it. Confusing, is it?

Let us consider a few examples – Sachin Tendulkar, Ustad Zakir Hussain, Dr. Abdul Kalam, Naseeruddin Shah, Mahatma Gandhi, Lata Mangeshkar etc. What is common between all of these? Yes, they are all famous. But is there anything else? Let me provoke you a little more by adding to this the following persons – your favourite teacher at school, your most loved servant/subordinate, your favourite cook, and your biggest crush. Do you see anything common between them and the names that were listed earlier? Almost invariably one would find that all of them have been practitioners of one thing or the other.

Let us consider Sachin Tendulkar’s example. He spends hours at the nets practicing on his batting skills, but he does not stop himself there. He invests equal if not more amount of time and effort into studying the nuances of the game, studying various conditions that might affect a cricket game, study opponents’ game to learn their strategies, understand their psychology, and is continuously endeavouring to better himself and add more value to the team each and every time.

Ustad Zakir Hussain not only practices playing the Tabla but also spends considerable time understanding the fundamentals of percussions, the effect of various beats and tempos, the various effect that can be generated by combining Tabla with other instruments in a jugalbandi, understanding western concepts of music to enrich his knowledge of percussion and music.

My favourite cook, my grandmother, is perfect not because she has practiced the art of cooking over the years. It is because each and every time I find her trying to improvise, learn new recipes, modifying and experimenting with her own recipes to appeal to varying tastes and preferences of my cousins and me. She goes as far as to mix elements of different cuisines in order to enrich our eating experience every single time.

All three of them are practitioners. Their existence is not limited to practice and perfection of a simple task, but to practice and perfect the value that they intend to provide through that task. We love Sachin not because he has perfected the art of batting, but because he nearly every time plays to win the match for his team. We love Zakir Hussain not because he has perfected the art of playing Tabla, but because he nearly every time enthralls us with his performance. I love my grandmother not because she has perfected the art of making rasam or sambar, but because she has never failed to arouse the joy of having consumed delicious food.
We seek and adore practitioners in life. We respect them for their discipline, and we don’t feel shy of showering them with our affection and blessings. That’s why the most popular guys in schools or colleges are those that are “famous” for some quality of theirs. It could be from as sophisticated as a math wizard to something as inane as a champion of antakshari.

Yet not many of us consciously try to become practitioners in life. Practitioners are a rare phenomenon in our society. Somehow a majority of us have relegated ourselves to a life of mediocrity and have built a cocoon around us in the false assumption that life in the arms of mediocrity is simple and uneventful. Nothing can be farther from the truth.

A practitioner may not achieve stupendous success in an activity but a mediocre person is doomed to failure under all circumstances. A student who is a practitioner may not end up topping his classroom, but is likely to contribute more value to the society in terms of his job, his family, his knowledge, his skills etc. than someone who is not because practitioners are a rare and cherished commodity. Sooner or later the practitioner would find success and when success comes to him it will come in all its glory. What is more amazing that the practitioner thereafter won’t really have to work hard to sustain it. He just has to be himself. The mediocre on the other hand would almost always struggle to achieve any semblance of success which I am afraid would never come to him or, even if it does, would not stay with him for long.

A practitioner when asked to perform a task that does not match his passions will perform at 80-90% efficiency whereas a mediocre person would always function at 50-60% efficiency, his own passions notwithstanding. A practitioner however when asked to perform a task that matches his passion ends up working at 250% efficiency. In fact, the word “passion” implies a practitioner at the core of it. The key is “devotion”. Devotion to a value, a cause, as it were, compels a person to explore in more depth and breadth and helps him reach an elevated state of knowledge that others can only dream about. Thus it is not uncommon to find practitioners become “stars” of an organization, “icons” of a society, or “idols” for the masses.

There is indeed value in being a practitioner.

Wednesday, May 13, 2009

An example of the "scare"

Following up on this post of mine...

A sticker outside some auto-rickshaws in Mumbai

"Spitting causes TB. Stop spitting"

Ah! How I wish this campaign catches on and we are rid of the menace of spitting that is literally painting the country red.

Tuesday, April 7, 2009

Mistaken Identity

“Suniye Bhaiya! Ye kitne ka hai?”

How many of us have used this line in our daily lives! Whether in the gift shop, the Big Bazaar, the subzi mandi, the saree shop, the sweet shop or any such place, we have often witnessed ourselves putting forth this inane query to a helpless, pitiful, weakling of the human species.

The language, or the tone, or perhaps even the demeanour may change from one place to another but the inherent question remains the same.

I too am no different. I have abused this single sentence so many times that it by far must have become the most commonly spoken sentence across all languages in India.

What I hadn’t observed so far is the mental attitude that accompanied the seemingly innocuous question. Often, and I am discounting the lavish, affluent, up-market shops or showrooms, the attendant workforce in these shops is relatively looked down upon by me. Primarily because in my opinion they are not well-educated, many of them are basically foolish since they don’t understand simple things are almost always clueless, they are low on capabilities – zero sales skills and pretty much non-existent communication skills. The more mass-market the commercial establishment, the lower my opinion of the shop attendants.

Yeah yeah, you may raise your finger at me and call me a pompous swellhead with a giant ego, but at least I am honest enough to admit what I feel. It may be misplaced but to come to a point where I am at least aware of the subconscious thought process that guides my actions is in itself an achievement for me. So there!

Now, it is quite a shock to me when I am at the receiving end of the question in question. Yes, ME. Not once, not twice, but innumerable times while I would be loitering about an aisle in a supermarket or casually browsing through the contents in a shop when I would be posed this query by a stranger.

It hurts me. Really. Because it immediately tells me that I somehow surprisingly exhibit all those qualities that I have subconsciously ascribed to the lowly creatures of the shop-attendant kind. It hurts me to know that despite wearing a T-shirt that carries the unmistakable logo of the very famous “Well known Institute of Management in Western India” that I have had the privilege of studying in the stranger does not hesitate even for a second before proceeding to assume that I am one of “THEM”.

Well, it happened to me yet again yesterday and this time in a Big Bazaar, arguably the most mass-market commercial establishment. The perpetrators this time were not one, two, but three people in succession who came up to me and asked me the price of a stupid mosquito-annihilation device that resembled a tennis racquet. All this happened while I was in an insouciant manner practicing my forehand with one of the pieces on display.

My immediate reaction was to break their heads with the device, then throw them on the ground and jump on their chests until their hearts popped out which I would then tear apart with my bare hands. But I am by nature a non-violent person and my inherent passive disposition eventually prevailed over my instincts.

But I did learn an important lesson yesterday. No, it is not that my respect for the shop attendants has increased remarkably. I don’t suppose that is likely to happen very soon. What I learnt was far more important and perhaps more essential for a better life. A life where embarrassments would be less and occasions for placing our feet in the most unlikely place of our mouths would be rare.

The lesson: Always make sure that the person who you are going to ask the question in question is indeed a shop attendant. Look for a tag, a uniform, or any other identification. Else, at least wait for someone else to speak to the person before you do.

What if you don’t? Well, remember not everyone is of a passive disposition as I am. :-)

Monday, April 6, 2009

Just scare the hell out of them!

Indians are often criticized by many for their poor civic sense particularly hygiene and cleanliness. By who? Well, at the least the elite and the educated in India do. Well, at least those in the network of my acquaintance do. Oh well, at least I do. It is frequently mentioned, often to the point of inducing hatred towards India and the Indians, that we, the Indians, do not know, appreciate, or even understand the value of maintaining cleanliness, especially outside the walls of our residences.

I will not dispute any of these allegations and it would be imprudent if I were to try to even remotely justify the callous indifference with which we, the Indians, treat public areas. I will also not try to cleverly manipulate you into believing that the blame for this mess lies with the Government, the authorities, the ‘system’ (whatever that means!), and what have you. I will also not try to commence a lecture on the benefits of cleanliness because I believe that anyone who is capable of reading this blog has learnt all that was to be learnt about the benefits of cleanliness in the process of their schooling.

So what is this whole rant all about? First of all, I would advise you not to label all this output of words as a ‘rant’ and discard it outright. I don’t believe that repeating a problem statement sufficient number of times reveals the solution automatically. We need to think, apply our minds, or innovate to produce a solution to a problem. With this inspiring thought I now proceed to propose a method by which we, the Indians, can be ‘encouraged’ to be more responsible and considerate towards the notion of civic sense.

No, this article is not a discourse on another great revolutionary idea about education, morality, and global warming. Instead, this article is about ‘Fear’. Yes, the same fear that gripped our hearts, occupied our mindspace during the Y2K chaos. The same fear that now scares the hell out of us when we have to drink a glass of water at a roadside ‘thela’ selling delicious samosas. The same fear that advises people, especially women, to not travel alone late in the night in the city of Delhi.

Fear I believe has been, is, and would always be the biggest motivator for the mankind. Fear makes us do things that we would never do, or as a corollary, would make us not do things that we have always been doing. Fear is the key to a man’s mindspace. Get fear into a man’s mind and he will readily do whatever you ask him to do. A very common policy, I say, that is often employed by the politicians of this country to ‘motivate’ people to give the former their invaluable votes.

So how do we use ‘Fear’ to elevate the abysmal standards of civic sense? Consider the following scenarios.

a. A plastic bag supposedly containing garbage thrown on the roadside of a busy shopping area

b. An open garbage dump that has been in existence for years in the corner of a residential colony

c. A crumpled piece of paper lying on the corridor of a mall or a commercial complex

“What about them”, one may ask as one is often used to such a sight across the length and breadth of India. But imagine the above scenarios with the following modifications:

a. A plastic bag supposedly containing explosive material thrown on the roadside of a busy shopping area

b. An open garbage dump in a residential colony contains a bag full of explosive materials

c. A crumpled piece of paper lying on the corridor of a mall or a commercial complex contains anthrax or other such potentially dangerous bio-weapon

If the above modifications do not succeed in running a chill down your spine, then you are either well protected, or you are one of those who were looking for a new idea to strike terror and now have found one thanks to this blog.

It is not very difficult to see how our indifference to unattended garbage lying about can be taken advantage of very conveniently by the Terrorists.

However, imagine these scenarios in an imaginary India where an instance of unattended garbage lying about is rare, where the people and police are vigilant about those who recklessly throw about garbage in public areas. It would be extremely difficult for one to inconspicuously plant a bomb or such and get away.

The key, I reiterate, is Fear. The fear of being blown away by bombs I hope is potent enough to drive people to dispose off their garbage in a more organized and ‘safe’ manner. It is only a matter of using the Fear Factor the right way. Radical thought? Well, I said so.  :-)

Friday, April 3, 2009

Useful business tips from Gujjus

While in Ahmedabad the following are some of the business tips (or policies, if you will) that I found worthy of imbibing from the Gujjus. I am not sure if they themselves follow these principles or are even aware of it. :-)

1. Never ever let a single paisa go waste in business.
2. Trust is the single biggest reason why one would continue to do business with you. So build the trust and live up to it at every cost.
3. Customer is THE king. Treat him like one (I would have said 'her' but then it would have had to be 'Queen').
4. Be humble, patient, polite and calm. ALWAYS. Without fail.
5. When it comes to business, no amount of hard work is beneath one's dignity. Be ready to walk, dirty your shoes and hands if need be if that adds to your business.
6. Keep business and emotions separate. In your personal capacity, you may spend thousands to help your friend, but in business you make sure that he pays for your product/service.

This is not exhaustive but this is what I can think of from the top of my head.

Surprisingly, these things are NEVER spoken about in management education, or at least the one I underwent. Maybe, that's why Gujjus make excellent "entrepreneurs" while we make good "managers".

Saturday, August 16, 2008

Food for thought?

If Homosexuality was indeed a genetic trait then shouldn't "natural selection" have caused it to vanish already?

Wednesday, April 2, 2008

Ummeed

maanaa toota mera dil hai
sooni dil ki mehfil hai
naamumkin nahi zindagi lekin
bhale thodi mushkil hai


maanaa nahi ghar-baar hai
thokarein bhi lagataar hain
naamumkin nahi thikaana jab
aashiyaana ye sansaar hai


maanaa nahi koi sang hai
na hi jeevan mein umang hai
naamumkin nahi khushiyan jab
gulon mein itne rang hain


fir jab pathreeli raah ho
gham mein doobi har aah ho
mai chalta rahu, badhta rahu
kyun mujhe dard ki parvaah ho

Sunday, March 9, 2008

Scrubs

Of all the TV series that I have watched I find Scrubs to be the most unique of them all. It is about friendship just like "Friends", about doctors and hospitals just like "General Hospital", about confused relationships just like "How I met your mother". The humour is subtle and the stories beautifully woven around a typical drab life in a hospital.

But the most interesting aspect of this series which was hitherto unknown to me is its rich soundtrack. I have been listening to it for the last two days and I must say I am impressed by the sheer variety of music that the sountrack has to offer.

My two personal favourites - "Fighting for my love" by Nil Lara and "Hey Good Looking" by Hank Williams.

Friday, February 22, 2008

What are the odds?

Yes, it was such a freak coincidence that I had to note it down on my blog!

Feb 21, 2008, the first of our mid-term examinations and in the true IIMA tradition, an open-book examination. The profs here have a lot of faith in students' creativity especially when the latter do not know the answers. The open books therefore are a way to contain that overflowing creativity. But I digress...

So, there I was sitting non-chalantly, determined to survive the examination's assault when the question papers were handed out to us. The first thing that hit me - no case - which is a good thing usually except this time when the four questions required us to refer to four cases in our study material.

It is then that it dawned upon me that I in my esteemed wisdom had completely ignored this eventuality and had come to the exam hall sans the study material. Within no time, the hands went cold, the forehead inundated with sweat beads and the heart racing so fast as if it would rather get out of my chest and be elsewhere where life was less cruel.

Now, a reasonably hard-working student would not have got so worked up as a reasonably hard-working student would have cared to study those cases, or at least, paid attention when they were being discussed in class. But, as it happens, God has gifted me almost every good quality in this world except the gift of "reasonable hard-work". But I digress again...

So, in a sort of desperation and perhaps driven by my undying spirit of optimism that help would arrive from somewhere, I turned around to my friend, Rohin, and in a tragic tone that would have made tragedy king Dilip Kumar look like Johnny Lever, mentioned my plight.

Rohin, on his part, gave me a smile which I thought was totally uncalled for especially when my future was in doldrums. I had just begun to muster enough anger within myself to give him a piece of my mind when, lo and behold, he takes out an extra case-material from his bag and hands it to me.

I gawked at him. Words did not come to me and had it not been for the pressure of examination which had long since started, I would have probably stood up and delivered an emotional speech filled with gratitude and other such assorted emotions.

Imagine 280 students, spread over 9 classrooms, and one of them happened to have an extra case-material borrowed from a senior and he happened to sit in my classroom right behind me. Heck, if he was sitting anywhere else even in the same classroom, I would not have survived today!

And what in the world was he doing with two books when one itself is a huge burden on mankind? The previous day, he could not find his case-material so he presumed that he lost it and therefore borrowed a copy from one of our seniors. As (my) luck would have it, as he was entering the exam hall today, one of his friends who happened to have his book, ran upto him and returned his book to him thus leaving him with two copies.

Who said miracles don't happen? :) God does exist and (S)he likes me. Thank you, God! :D

ps: Yesterday, my fortune in Orkut said - "Good luck would come to you soon." Ha ha.

Wednesday, October 10, 2007

bhramar

ek anjaan bageeche mein
pagal bhramar bhraman karta
milan sundar kali ka ho
bas yahi aas kshan kshan karta


youvan pankh umang sahit
us premi ne udaan bhari
har ang ang khila phoolon ka
khil khil kar muskaan bhari


aalingan par un pushpon ka
na uske man ko tha bhaaya
prem-vash tha vivash bhramar ke
dil mein ik sundar kaaya


madmast bhramar vo man mera
tarase hai prem kali paavan
rang bhar de sundarta jiski
mohit kar de mera jeevan

Friday, August 31, 2007

Truth.

Can someone give me one example of Truth given the definition below?

Truth is infallible.
Truth is immutable.
Truth is permanent.
Truth is one.

Tuesday, July 31, 2007

what drives you?

Why do certain people relish solving tough problems and coming up trumps with a solution?

Why do certain people take up seemingly impossible challenges to overcome them?

In any institute where one may have studied, there would be a few students who would be classified
as "brilliant", better than the rest, and would be expected to top every exam.

The others are happy and contented in their mediocrity, have either given up trying, or do not
harbour any intentions to put an extra effort.

Take one such "brilliant" student. She has always revelled in topping all exams. She believes that
she is bound to lead when it comes to academics; that she must always set an example before others.

This students is brimming with confidence, and as a logical progression to one's academic pursuit, lands
up in a renowned institute venerated for its quality of education and what not.

Here, the student finds herself among many other brilliant students coming from different backgrounds.

Suddenly, she finds she is no longer one of the privileged ones. She is not who everyone looks upto.
Heck, she is finding it difficult to top her examinations and is consistenly outperformed by not one
but many of her counterparts.

She starts losing confidence in herself and starts doubting her very abilities.

An institue is a place where students come to learn, build up confidence to go out and face the world.

If a student who was full of confidence comes to this institute, loses it completely, and starts doubting
one's abilities, then is the institute not actually doing a disservice? :-)

Sunday, July 22, 2007

Another year...

I am 27 today. :-)

Wednesday, July 11, 2007

God help us..

What must he (name withheld) do?

He sees a girl and develops a strong crush for her. He develops a strong crush for her because she reminds him of a girl he hates. He hates that girl because he deeply loves her. He deeply loves her but doesn't feel ready to commit. He doesn't feel ready to commit because she hates him. Interestingly, she hates him because she deeply loves him. He doesn't feel he is capable of doing justice to "being in love". To sum it up, he is getting attracted to a girl he doesn't love. :)

Any suggestions?

ps: I couldn't think of any thing to suggest him, except maybe,... in fact,... I couldn't suggest anything.

pps: If fate does bring her to this blog one day, "He deeply loves the girl he hates and would want to spend the rest of his life with the girl he can not commit to." :D

Monday, July 9, 2007

purity

Purity of mind, purity in thoughts, purity in actions. - can a human being ever be without violating any of these?

possible candidates -

saints, priests, teachers, mothers.

but we must remember that each of these are driven by a deep and powerful selfish interest...

...and an individual plays more than one role in his/her life.



ps: Never betray LOVE.


pps: If you do, never betray it.

Saturday, April 21, 2007

Life

As life got busier and busier,
the time cruised by,
and now I try to catch some moments,
some memories flashing by.

undeterred and adamant,
the stream flows on,
how I wish could stop it,
halt it, but it goes on.

and soon would go the moments
that I would have loved to cherish
those flowers fragrant, the rivers tranquil,
those wonderful relations that I relish.

As I stand at the end of the road
looking back, I say to myself,
the end that I had ran to never did exist,
that the end was in the journey itself.

Tuesday, April 17, 2007

Foreign Affair

Ashok Babu true to his middle-class nature believed in the superiority of everything foreign or imported. His abode in Kalyani Nagar comprised of an eclectic collection of items procured from places as diverse as Timbuktu and Tokyo. An American Television, a Swiss watch, and a Japanese tape recorder were some of his prized possessions. He assumed an air of pride bordering on arrogance among other residents of Kalyani Nagar. Lately, he had been advised some physical exercise by his doctor and he perceived this as an opportunity to procure yet another foreign-made item to enhance his relative status in the society. With this pleasant thought in mind, he proceeded to the bicycle shop at the marketplace nearby. With an air of hauteur possessed usually by the kings of bygone eras, he summoned the shop owner and ordered,

"Show me the best bicycle that you have."

The shop-owner obliged like an obedient servant and led him to a section of the shop that had more bicycles than people around that conveyed obviously to Ashok Babu that the place displayed bicycles worth more than the general affordability of the more common populace. He beamed an egotistic smile. He could have patted his back with his own hands if only they could venture beyond the circumference of his prosperous belly.

"I want only a foreign-made bicycle. These Indian-made ones are cheap and are of an inferior quality. If you have any foreign-made bicycles then show them to me else don't waste my time", he said emphatically.

"We have the best in the world, Sir. Don't you worry at all. I will show you the best and nothing but the best bicycles."

"But they are foreign-made, aren't they?"

"Yes, of course, Sir. None of them have even a part that is manufactured in India."

Ashok Babu was visibly pleased with the answer and with an appreciative eye began inspecting the exhibits in the order of increasing price. For each product that he eyed, the shop-owner embarked on a rote-learned recitation of its qualities and features that entitled the bicycle to be deemed as the best in the world. Finally, Ashok Babu stopped next to the most expensive bicycle and scrutinized it with the kind of perspicacity that is usually possessed by women purchasing vegetables in the market.

The shop-owner having perceived Ashok Babu's affirmative glances began enumerating all the qualities of the bicycle and in the process rattled off the names of all the countries where each part of the bicycle was manufactured.

Pleased with the description, Ashok Babu decided to purchase it immediately.

"That will be 5000 rupees, Sir!"

The amount sounded exorbitant to Ashok Babu and he almost as quickly decided to label the doctor a quack and consult another one who could instead prescribe him a magic pill than advise exercise, but the delicious opportunity of stamping his superior status on his neighbours and witness their faces painted with jealousy and envy prevented him from doing so and he fished into his pocket and brought out a bundle of notes, counted the required amount, and handed over the money to the shop-owner.

"It better be worth all the money."

"Sure sir, it is. As an additional security measure, I would suggest you to purchase a lock for the bicycle. I have some in my shop if you are interested."

"Well, that is a good idea. Are the locks too imported?"

"Er, no Sir. They aren't. Unfortunately, we have only Indian locks."

An Indian lock on an imported bicycle! Almost outrightly Ashok babu rejected the idea. His bicycle deserved nothing less than a swiss lock. What a matter of shame it would be for him otherwise! He rejected the shop-owner's suggestion and admonished him for even suggesting so.

Visibly bloated with happiness and pride over his latest purchase, Ashok Babu emerged out of the cycle shop dragging along his brand new bicycle alongside him. He decided to celebrate this joyous occasion at Guptaji's shop – his favourite sweet shop in the middle of the busy market place of Kalyani Nagar – by feasting on a kilo or two of delicious Jalebis.

Guptaji received him with customary graciousness reserved for his most special customers. Even before being asked, Ashok Babu announced his latest achievement to the motley group of people around the shop and went about his business of gorging on the choicest sweets the shop had to offer.

Contented and satisfied, Ashok Babu decided to go home and after having paid the bill, came out of the shop, and, as he had done in the past, promptly called for a taxi and went home.

It is only when he was smugly reminiscing about the day's events that it struck him that he had left the bicycle outside Guptaji's shop. Not that people of Kalyani Nagar were notorious kleptomaniacs. However, it would be imprudent to believe that an expensive item such as his bicycle would not draw the attention of, or indeed tempt an honest man into immoralilty.

The sudden prospect of losing his prized possession instilled into him a briskness and a religious zeal that had long been not witnessed in his demeanour. He shot off towards Guptaji's shop with a prayer on his lips. He promised himself that if he found his bicycle he would immediately visit the temple on the outskirts of Kalyani Nagar and offer generous oblations.

Soon enough, he was at Guptaji's shop huffing and puffing and catching on his breath. There, outside the shop, in the golden light of the setting sun, his bicycle shone like a magnificent piece carved out in gold. Never had he felt the enormous elation he felt in his heart then. If he could, he would have jumped in joy but the sheer gravity acting on him kept his feet planted firmly on the ground.

He hugged his bicycle like a mother who hugs her long-separated child. He held the bicycle in his hands and began dragging it along. As promised, he decided to visit the temple and express his gratitude to the Gods for protecting his beloved bicycle. He laboured all the way to the outskirts of the town where the temple was situated.

He parked his bicycle outside the temple and went in. True to his words, he offered a generous donation of a hundred and one rupees – an auspicious amount - to the temple and profusely thanked the Gods.

His heart light with happiness and joy, Ashok Babu emeged out of the temple, wore his shoes and walked towards where his bicycle was parked. Only this time, the bicycle wasn't there.

Sunday, April 8, 2007

War and Ego

If there is one phenomenon that the entire Human history is ridden with, then it is definitely War. Just open a book of History and randomly run your finger to any one page and you would most likely find a reference to a war. Numerous reasons are given for a war - battle for truth, battle for good, battle for Gods etc. A lot of consequences have also been elaborated - destruction, gloom, poverty, diseases etc.

But what sustains a war?; why the parties involved in a war want to continue to wage it despite knowing its consequences all too well? How many times have we heard people say that they would rather not have a war but they can't help it. What does one mean by "cannot help it" ? Is it really true that they are helpless or is it that they do not want to help themselves?

One factor that I seem to notice in all these conflicts is a strong presence of EGO. War is an excellent exercise in fuelling one's EGO. Taking initiative to broke peace is perceived to be a sign of weakness in the party offering truce. Alternately, if a party that has had an upper hand suddenly offers peace to its opponent, it is taken as a sign of humiliation by the opponent; all the more reason for him/her to continue to wage the war and not accept the peace offer.

After the war has run for a prolonged time, if the two parties involved do decide to sit down and fashion a peaceful solution to the problem, neither of the sides is willing to compromise on its stand. The sheer cost, effort and time that has been expended on waging the war prohibits any compromise, otherwise it might make the warring parties look like fools for having waged a war on something that could have been solved by a dialogue and compromise. The EGO yet again comes into play.

One may find such similarities in a discord that emerges between a husband and a wife, or between two siblings, or between two lovers. None of the parties is happy being in the discord and would want to resolve the issue amicably and live happily with each other. However, their respective EGOs would prevent them from taking the first step towards a resolution lest they are perceived to be the weaker party and are seen willing to compromise - something which the other might take advantage of to further his/her opinion or position. Hence the deadlock continues and a relation that should have blossomed happily continues to sour to its destruction.

That is why it is often said that the most precious word in a relationship is SORRY. This word not only immediately assuages the EGO of the opponent almost instantaneously but also gives us an opportunity to look within ourselves to see if the mistake, or part thereof, does lie with us. If both parties follow this principle, then the relationship never ever faces an EGO clash as both parties would look forward to a compromise almost as soon as a conflict or a contentious issue rears its head.

Maybe, there is an equivalent of SORRY word in WAR too. Everytime, a discord emerges that could be a potential cause for a war, the two parties must utter the "SORRY" word and sit down and formulate a compromise solution. Maybe then we would be able to maintain peace and happiness in the world.

Tuesday, March 27, 2007

It's official!

अभी की ऐश २० अप्रैल को होगी।



:-)

Thursday, March 22, 2007

Marriage

My heart racing fast

sweat on my forehead

My ears were oblivious

to what was being said.







I stood there stupefied

wondering what to do

what state of madness

this situation brought me to.







The nerves were a wreck

I wanted to run far away

I could not bear the burden

of responsibilities coming my way







Then she appeared before me

all demure and shy

A subdued smile on her lips

probably a tear in her eye







Her beauty was enchanting

and my heart skipped a beat

Her lips so full of life

her voice so sweet.







And suddenly the world changed

and I did not want to run away

I wanted to hold her, kiss her

and make love to her all day.







I could not live without her

that I came to know for sure

I could take on the world if she was with me

and suddenly I wasn't afraid any more.

Thursday, March 1, 2007

Talk on dear...

Scene 1

The team is in a resort having fun its own ways - in the pool, at the snooker table, badminton court etc.
All except one who has received a call on his phone and is sitting in a corner and has been talking
for over two hours now..


Scene 2

With the exhaustion evident on his face, eyes red, and sleep lingering on his eyes, the man enters the office.
I inquire of the reason of his state. "Had been on the phone till late in the morning..."


Scene 3

The sun sets, night descends and most of the private rooms in office are occupied - not to attend conference calls - but by many men to indulge in separate private tete-a-tete that can run from anywhere between 2 to 5 hours.


What is it about "engaged" couples that makes them want to talk so much over phone night after night after night? If it was one or two then I would have been inclined to believe that it was only an aberration, but the more men I see getting engaged the more I see them hanging on to the phones involved in long conversations with their counterparts. I am led to believe that maybe there is something intrinsically wrong with me that I find the idea of being on the phone for so long night after night a very frightening, annoying, and a very stressful exercise.

Take the example of the poor man in scene 1. He was on an outing enjoying with his friends and would have probably liked to spend the time (at least I would have loved to) mucking about in the pool with the rest of his friends, or indulge in a game of tennis or badminton. Certainly, these are not activities that one has access to on normal days and the very fact that one has to spend the time meant to be spent with one's friends talking to one's fiance on the phone while the rest of the gang enjoys seems to be a little cruel on the poor chap.

It is a wonder what and how much content could there be to talk about everyday for hours on. Even if I concede that a new couple has a lot of things to share, I cannot imagine that the corpus of information is not exhausted within a month of daily talkathons. What after that? I am sure even an account of the day's activities cannot merit
two-three hours of elaboration.

A lot of guys I know do not enjoy such long conversations - they take part in such conversations only because the other half wants them to - and they play along with the, pardon me for the use of the word, ordeal day after day. Some of them do try to justify that it is essential that a couple talks or communicates so much to lay solid foundation for a long lasting relationship. Does that mean if a guy does not have the financial means to foot the resulting telephone bill then he is doomed in his relationships with the woman he loves? By this logic, the couple in my previous generation should not have stayed together for as long as they have now. Clearly, there is a flaw in that logic. My parents are now married for over 27 years and (touchwood) still seem to going as strong as ever.

So, what is the logic behind this madness of talking over phone? What recourse does a guy who does not like have long conversations over phone have? Does he go and tell the girl that they should limit their conversations to 30 to 60 minutes everyday? "Suicide" is how some of my friends describe such a situation. In a way, there seems to be some justification for the girls' eagerness to spend some talking to their loved ones especially if they see most of their friends bragging about the duration of their romantic conversations the next day. It would naturally make any girl doubt the intensity or sincerity of their fiances' love. Funnily, the duration of phone conversations has become a direct measure of a couple's love in this telecommunication age.

Currently I do not seem to find any solution to this nagging problem and unless girls start talking less, or I change, there seems to be no light at the end of this tunnel. Maybe I am doomed. "18 till I die", someone said. In my case, it probably will be "18 and single till I die".

Friday, February 23, 2007

night out song.

neend aa rahi hai
mujhe neend aa rahi hai
neend aane se
thak jaane se
ubaasi aa rahi hai

1)
kal bhi mai na soya
aur aaj bhi so na paaunga
office mein rahoonga
ghar wapas ja na paaunga

night out maar.un
kaam se haar.un
udaasi chaa rahi hai

2)
naukari karte karte
mai to sona hi bhool gaya
ab aise din beete
khaana peena bhi bhool gaya

dil behlaa.un
aur samajhaau.n
kamaai to aa rahi hai

Friday, February 9, 2007

Blind love

Life is funny in that it can make one realize what a wonderful gift it is in very many subtle ways just when you think you could have had it better. For the last few months near the place where I live I have noticed a number of people happily walking all the way to their place of work in the morning and then walk back home in the evening, stopping at the small temple at the road side and reciting a small prayer with a head bowed in reverence and devotion. Everyday, they walk alone, and most importantly happily, with a smile on their faces and carry out this routine with what I perceive to be a deep-seated gratitude in their hearts towards God for having given them such a wonderful gift of Life.

And today, once again, another couple of people made me realize the futility or irrationaliy, unreasonableness, or, if I may dare say, foolishness of our tendency to carp about our lives. The couple had a beautiful baby girl in their arms, the husband was ready to leave for his office but had probably taken some time out just take his beautiful daughter for that precious morning stroll that every child eagerly looks forward to with its father just when he is leaving for office. There was so much love between them that it touched a chord.

So what is special about these people? What makes them different from other such people and couples?

Just one thing - they are all blind.


ps: "Happiness is only a state of mind"

Tuesday, January 30, 2007

How convenient.

At first the man was happy. He ate, slept and
occasionaly indulged in copulation.

Till he realized life was very inconvenient having to walk all the way everytime an ice age occurs.
Also, the coldness of ice wasn't helping either.

So one day the man suddenly created the wheel.
Then he accidently created fire.

Then he figured he was taking too much time travelling between his hunting ground and his home-cave, so he created a cart using the wheels to make his life more convenient.

Then he figured he needed something to push it, so he decided to yoke horses to his cart.

Once he could save some time travelling, his wife decided to put the spare time to better use by shopping.

Gradually, the list of items to shop grew longer and soon there were more things to shop and less time.

So he built an engine to replace his horses.

The engine required fuel. So he created mines to mine the fuel.

Soon other men decided they too wanted one of these fast moving things so they asked our man to make some more.

So the man now set up factories to produce more vehicles.

As the demand grew, the man decided to make things more
convenient by building machines that would build carts.

Someone else in the meantime decided to build his own
cart.

Soon there were a lot of carts and no fuel.

So the man decided to dig deeper in the ground for the fuel.

When he could find none, he decided to find it elsewhere.

Soon there were a lot of men digging deep elsewhere.

Gradually, no more elsewheres could be found.

In the meantime, the man realized that his cart ride was very bumpy.

So to make his ride more comfortable, he decided to build roads.

But the roads would be spoiled by rains.

So he decided to use up some of his fuel to build tar roads.

Now that the roads were better, other men wanted to travel farther and wider.

So more roads needed to be built.

Soon, a lot of fuel was being burnt so that more fuel could be burnt.

And then again, there wasn't much fuel remaining.

So man decided to snatch someone else's fuel.

This led to physical combats.

To gain advantage, man built weapons.

Other men built better weapons.

Soon men were creating more weapons than men.

So more machines were required to build more weapons.

More weapons meant more machines that meant more fuel that meant more weapons that meant more machines.. and er.. one gets the point.

And now, man is happy how convenient his life has become.

Monday, January 8, 2007

When the dawn breaks
the sun shines down
the wall of brightness
brings the darkness down


But I feel empty
that something is absent
I wonder why am not happy
in that wonderful moment


It was I who broke away
It was I who dismissed you
Is it strange that now I wonder
Is it strange that I miss you

Monday, October 30, 2006

I am a jerk! If only I could go back in time...

Sunday, July 23, 2006

Another year.

I am 26 today. :-)

Wednesday, June 28, 2006

Naiharva

Yup - this song is creating ripples through the country through the bewitching voice of Kailash Kher in his new album, Kailasa. Not many however do understand the lyrics. Neither did I until I really paid attention to them and until I heavily used the services of Sergey's and Larry's enterprise.

If one thought the song was beautiful, the lyrics are divine, and I mean it in the true sense. Originally expressed by Kabir, the words come out with all the knowledge and wisdom of the world that one has come to associate Kabir with. Here is the reproduction of lyrics and meanings (literal and interpreted) of this beautiful song - Naiharva. Some more pearls can be obtained HERE .




Naiharva Hum Ka Na Bhave
Sai Ki Nagri Param Ati Sundar,
Jahan Koi Jav Na Avey
Chand Suraj Jahan, Pavan Na Pani,
Ko Sundesh Pahunchave
Dard Yeh Sai Ko Sunave
Agey Chalo Panth Nahin Sujhe,
Peeche Dosh Lagawe
Kehi Bidhi Sasure Jau Mori Sajani,
Virha Jor Jarawe
Vishai Ras Nach Nachawe
Bin Satguru Apno Nahin Koi,
Jo Yeh Rah Batawe
Kahat Kabira Suno Bhai Sadho,
Supne Na Peetam Awey
Tapan Yeh Jiya Ki Bujhawey


Meanings of selected words -
Naiharva - Wife's house (or, Mayka in Hindi)
Sai - Beloved (or, Husband)
Panth - Way
Bidhi - Method, scheme, way.
Virha - Separation
Satguru - Holy Teacher
Tapan - Fire
Jiya - Heart



Literal Translation
I Don’t Find any Interest in My Parent’s House
My Beloved’s Town is Most Beautiful
However, Nobody Goes or Comes from There
There is no Moon, Sun, Wind or Water There
Then Who Will Take My Message There?
Then Who Will Tell My Pain to My Beloved?

There is No Visible Path to Move Forward
And You Blame the Past for It
How Should the Bride go to the House of the Beloved?
Powerful Pangs of Separation are Burning from Inside
Dual Reality is Fashioning a Dance to Its Tune

There is None Other Than the Guru Who is Mine Who Can Tell the Way
Says Kabir Listen oh Aspirant
Your Beloved Will Come in a Dream-like State
That Alone Will Quench the Thirst of your Heart



Philosophical Interpretation
n this song Kabir portrays himself like a bride who has gone to her parents house. But having gone there her soul burns from the pangs of separation from her beloved. The bride’s trouble is further complicated because there are no messengers (such as the Sun, Moon, Wind or Water) who can reach and convey her message to the beloved. She has no path or way to solve this problem. Meanwhile the separation is killing her from inside.

Kabir, in his mystical way, is comparing the separation of the individual from the universal self like that of a bride from her beloved. He explains that this insatiable thirst comes from the feeling of separation whose root lies in duality.

He then explains that the only person who can help out of this problem is the Guru. In his final parting signature note, Kabir reveals that the way to reach the beloved is not outside but Inside (similar to a dream-like state) which alone will satisfy the seemingly unending burning thirst.

Tuesday, May 23, 2006

Monday, May 22, 2006

A tough decision

This piece of news may not be known to most of you (I am assuming there are at least 5 readers of this blog besides me) - I have got a call for admission from IIM Lucknow for PGP starting this June. I have to send them a reply by the 26th of May. I have decided NOT TO GO. Unfortunately, the story does not end here. I am in such a pitiable state of confusion that I am zero confident of this decision. It has apparently not made my parents very happy and has left some of relatives baffled and I don't have any concrete reasons for the same.

So, here is my request to all my friends who care about me a bit - please give me convincing reasons one way or the other on why I should or should not go for this course. I have only today to make the decision. Tomorrow is the last day on which I could send a draft in case I am convinced to take up the course. I hope you guys will come out and help me.

Friday, April 21, 2006

Ah! Who can forget this?

"E lo kar lo baat. Are babuji aisi english ave that I can leave angrej behind. You see sir, I can talk english, I can walk english I can laugh english because english is a phunny language. Bhairon become baron and baron become Bhairon because their minds are very narrow. In the year 19 hundred and 29 sir, when India was playing against Australia in Melbourne city, Vijay Merchant and Vijay Hazare they were at the crease and Vijay Merchant told Vijay Hazare, look Vijay Hazare, this is a very prestigious match and you must consider this match very carefully. So considering the consideration that Vijay Hazare gave Vijay Merchant, Vijay Merchant told Vijay Hazare that ultimately we must take a run and when they were striking the ball on the left side sir, the consideration became into an ultimatum and ultimately Vijay Hazare went to Vijay Merchant and said...

- (Ranjit says) oh shut up -

Similarly Sir, In the year 19 hundred and 79 when India was playing against Pakistan in Wankhade stadium Bombay, Wasim Raja and Wasim Bari they were at the crease and Wasim Bari gave the same consideration to Wasim Raja and Wasim Raja told Wasim Bari look sir, this ultimately has to end in a consideration which I cannot consider. Therefore, the consideration that you are giving me must be considered very ultimately. Therefore, the run they were taking, Wasim Raja told Wasim Bari, Wasim Bari you take a run and ultimately both of them ran and considerately they got out."

Thursday, April 20, 2006

ab kis se kahe.n hum apne dil ka fasaanaa
jab khuda hi nahi sunta to kya sunega zamaanaa

Monday, April 17, 2006

Proud and Loud declaration, a strong reprimand, an unexpected
rejection, and a tame denial.

All along in this drama, one thing became clearer - politicians are
not interested in the welfare of the society; to them the single most
important thing is the votes that would keep them in power.

Arjun Singh, notorious that he has been, once again played the crudest
form of a political gimmick that has eaten into the social fabric of
our country and in an attempt to be the messiah of the underprivileged
pushed the country further into a future of social disharmony and
intellectual incapacity.

With all due respect to Dr. Ambedkar who himself realized the
long-term implications of the reservation system, I do feel sad to
note that he inadvertently set a vicious cycle into motion that is not
only becoming difficult to end but also in the manner of a snowball
increasingly growing into being a major cause of social conflicts in
the country.

I have often mused over possible solutions to the very problem that
the policy of reservations seeks to address, that is, the problems of
inequality of social opportunities and an end to discrimination. None of
the solutions that seemed most intuitive to me indicated that the best
solution to tackle a form of discrimination is to reverse its
direction.

Creating awareness about the problem is one step, but utilising it to
cause further divide in the minds of the general populace is criminal.
If indulging in activity that harms the integrity and unity of our
country is a crime, then it is my firm belief that the propagators of
the reservation policy must be put behind bars and, in ideal cases,
hanged to death.

I as a citizen of this country strongly believe against
discrimination. I believe that all of us must be given equal social
opportunities in life and career. If there is one among us who is
unable to gain access to the opportunities due to constraints of money
or education or social stigma, then we must address the issues so that
the constraints are eliminated but the equality of opportunities is
not disturbed.

If a government is not able to address these issues and instead
indulges in encouraging the flames of discrimination among its own
countrymen, then such a government must not exist.

You can visit the following sites

http://iitiimres.blogspot.com
http://www.petitiononline.com/No_Quota/petition.html

Monday, March 6, 2006

To Hell

is all we would go towards.

Heard in a hindi-dubbed version of Vertical Limit -
"Jews kehte hain ki Jesus ko maanoge to nark mein jaaoge.
Isaaii kehte hain ki Jesus ko nahi maanoge to nark mein jaaoge.
Catholic kehte hain ki Pope ko nahi maanoge to nark mein jaaoge.
Matlab, kuch bhi ho, mujhe to nark mein hi jaana hai."

Well, the writer could included some more of world's religions. Alas,
he/she chose only two/three.

Isn't it strange that one who - saves our lives while we are hanging
precariously over a cliff, lends us a helping hand in our
times of extreme needs, lives a life of kindness and compassion
towards all - WILL go to HELL only because he doesn't happen to belong to
the faith we deem as right?

Sounds ridiculous, right? Yet, why is it so goddamm difficult for people
to understand? Why?

I am really really really upset today.

Kitna Badal Gaya Insaan.

It is funny how easily 'tolerance' is mistaken to be 'submission' to other's ideas. Indeed tolerance is defined by one's characteristic dislike of others which is marked by an overwhelming feeling of compassion that suppresses and to a great extent controls one's dislike from taking precedence over one's thoughts.

Yet, to us, it must always be clear that tolerance of our actions and thoughts does not indicate our acceptance and certainly not appreciation. It therefore becomes important for us to ensure that our actions and views remain right where they exist - on the boundary between others' compassion and dislike.

Obviously, it will be extremely difficult for us to cross over to others' territory of compassion entirely because that would entail shedding our beliefs and accepting theirs, but we should not take the tolerance of others for granted and try to push back their boundaries of dislike further, for that would result in fierce retaliation and redefinition of the boundaries more in favour of the feeling of dislike and, in extreme cases, obliteration of the other.


ps: Goa witnesses its first communal riot.


pps:
duusro.n ka dukhadaa duur karne waale'
tere dukh door karenge Ram!
kiye' jaa tu jag mei.n bhalaaii kaa kaam
tere dukh door karenge Ram!

Simple, enchanting, honest philosophy. I wish everyone followed this.

Thursday, March 2, 2006

Douglas Adams

Something inside me compelled me to dedicate at least one blog entry to the second greatest humourist I have encountered in my literary expeditions. (The first one is PG Wodehouse to who I will probably dedicate an entire blog someday. But that, I guess, is already done by many).

I cannot even in my entire linguistic capabilities elaborate on the kind of humour that Douglas Adams deals with.

Go read "The Ultimate Hitchhikers' Guide to the Galaxy" if you haven't already. :-)

p.s. - "All it takes to fly is to hurl yourself at the ground... and miss."

Friday, February 24, 2006

:-)

From the internet when I was trying to gather some Perls of wisdom.

http://www.comp.leeds.ac.uk/Perl/Misc/electricity.txt

It was originally posted by David O'Brien in in Leed's University's CS Dept's local news system. (at least, that's what I gathered from the page that had this link!)

ps: In case there are non-computer geeks reading this, that misspelling of 'Perl' was deliberate. :-)



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Here is a dissertation on physical science for your enlightenment.
I don't know where it came from so it must be true!

[ Update: This appears to have come from Dave Barry, and the same text
can be found as:

http://www.uk.research.att.com/~fms/electricity.html
http://rachel.albany.edu/~jc9334/barry1.html

and many other places on the web. I'd check with Dave, but he
doesn't respond to email any more (and life's too short for snail
mail) ]
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Today's scientific question is: What in the world is electricity and
where does it go after it leaves the toaster?

Here is a simple experiment that will teach you an important
electrical lesson: On a cool dry day, scuff your feet along a carpet,
then reach your hand into a friend's mouth and touch one of his dental
fillings. Did you notice how your friend twitched violently and cried
out in pain? This teaches one that electricity can be a very powerful
force, but we must never use it to hurt others unless we need to learn
an important lesson about electricity.

It also illustrates how an electrical circuit works. When you scuffed
your feet, you picked up batches of "electrons", which are very small
objects that carpet manufacturers weave into carpet so that they will
attract dirt. The electrons travel through your bloodstream and
collect in your finger, where they form a spark that leaps to your
friend's filling, then travel down to his feet and back into the
carpet, thus completing the circuit.

AMAZING ELECTRONIC FACT: If you scuffed your feet long enough without
touching anything, you would build up so many electrons that your
finger would explode! But this is nothing to worry about unless you
have carpeting.

Although we modern persons tend to take our electric lights, radios,
mixers, etc. for granted, hundreds of years ago people did not have
any of these things, which is just as well because there was no place
to plug them in. Then along came the first Electrical Pioneer,
Benjamin Franklin, who flew a kite in a lightning storm and received a
serious electrical shock. This proved that lightning was powered by
the same force as carpets, but it also damaged Franklin's brain so
severely that he started speaking only in incomprehensible maxims,
such as, "A penny saved is a penny earned." Eventually he had to be
given a job running the post office.

After Franklin came a herd of Electrical Pioneers whose names have
become part of our electrical terminology: Myron Volt, Mary Louise
Amp, James Watt, Bob Transformer, etc. These pioneers conducted many
important electrical experiments. Among them, Galvani discovered
(this is the truth) that when he attached two different kinds of metal
to the leg of a frog, an electrical current developed and the frog's
leg kicked, even though it was no longer attached to the frog, which
was dead anyway. Galvani's discovery led to enormous advances in the
field of amphibian medicine. Today, skilled veterinary surgeons can
take a frog that has been seriously injured or killed, implant pieces
of metal in its muscles, and watch it hop back into the pond --
almost.

But the greatest Electrical Pioneer of them all was Thomas Edison, who
was a brilliant inventor despite the fact that he had little formal
education and lived in New Jersey. Edison's first major invention in
1877 was the phonograph, which could soon be found in thousands of
American homes, where it basically sat until 1923, when the record was
invented. But Edison's greatest achievement came in 1879 when he
invented the electric company. Edison's design was a brilliant
adaptation of the simple electrical circuit: the electric company
sends electricity through a wire to a customer, then immediately gets
the electricity back through another wire, then (this is the brilliant
part) sends it right back to the customer again.

This means that an electric company can sell a customer the same batch
of electricity thousands of times a day and never get caught, since
very few customers take the time to examine their electricity closely.
In fact, the last year any new electricity was generated was 1937.

Today, thanks to men like Edison and Franklin, and frogs like
Galvani's, we receive almost unlimited benefits from electricity. For
example, in the past decade scientists have developed the laser, an
electronic appliance so powerful that it can vaporize a bulldozer 2000
yards away, yet so precise that doctors can use it to perform delicate
operations to the human eyeball, provided they remember to change the
power setting from "Bulldozer" to "Eyeball."

Thursday, February 9, 2006

Weak example.

That is how I found Rang De Basanti! The concept to somehow merge two events in different times as one may be the first of its kind, but a good deed done in vain is worse than a bad deed.

WARNING: The plot is partly revealed below

There are a few things that did not convince me in the movie:

1. The reason - Yes, death of a loved one is very painful, but that leading them to justify killing of another man was not entirely convincing. In this respect, it was like any other Hindi movie of late 80s and early 90s when the HERO only needed a reason to take up and machine gun and go tat-tat-tat-tatting into the Villain's lair.

2. The method - Killing! Taking life of another person is a very extreme step; one that is taken as a last resort. The characters, and indeed the character of Flt Lt. Rathore whose death caused them to resort to the extreme step, exhort the youth to take up positions in IAS, IPS, politics to fight the system. Yet, they seem to conveniently forget this and take the easy way out.

3. The comparison - Likening a few disillusioned young boys to great freedom fighters like Bhagat Singh and co. was a little hard to swallow. They had a dream, had a passion, had a spirit which was solely channelled towards the freedom of their motherland and not to settle petty scores with individuals. The film ended up glorifying and equating disillusioned killing to patriotism and might influence the young to think that going about knocking out people/politicians/leaders/administrators who, I emphasize, 'they think are evil' is the right way to fight the system. The very idea is frightening!

All in all, it was way below mark when compared to movies like Swades and Yuva that had a very positive and constructive message to convey and were equally inspirational. I had goose-bumps for the entire duration while watching Yuva. Such was the impact of the movie.

In RDB, the only moments when I felt a surge of adrenaline was when Atul Kulkarni sang 'Sarfaroshi ki Tamanna' and when 'Jallianwala Bagh Massacre' was depicted.

Saturday, February 4, 2006

Auspicious day coming

Feb 2, Vasant Panchami, is one of the most auspicious days in Hindu Calendar. It is so auspicious that a boy and a girl can get married on this day without any need to look for a muhurtham (an auspicious time). This is a day when there is no need to match Kundalis, Gotrams etc. Just the boy and the girl are enough to complete the marriage requirements.

Why am I publicising this information here? Well, one never knows how important such information may turn out to be for some people! :-)

Tuesday, January 31, 2006

Caste-ing doubts.

My recent trip to Rajasthan made me realize one thing - Caste is a fact that is so well entrenched in the minds of people that a person's introduction is incomplete without it having been mentioned. It is not just limited to a section of people but almost anyone who you get acquainted with pops this question to you with nonchalance that can unsettle anyone who is not comfortable with the idea of carrying that aspect of one's identity on one's sleeve. In my life, I have never had to answer the caste-question as many times as I did in my three day stay in Rajasthan.

The reason I am mentioning this is not malign the people of Rajasthan or their culture. By far, they have been the most hospitable people among all the places I have been to in my little life. I am mentioning this because despite belonging to a caste traditionally considered to be privileged I never had my caste identity in my consciousness until I reached IIT Bombay for my M.Tech. Throughout my childhood, either at home or in school, this equation was never brought into active thought or conversation except in some vague chapters of history books. Yet, to find children as young as five year olds who would have barely started uttering their first words coming and asking me my caste bewildered me.

Caste, I thought till not so long ago, plays a more secondary role in the Southern India gaining significance only in finding matches in arranged marriages. But after a house-hunting experience in Bangalore, I became wiser. "Sir, are you a veggie?" was a question that was hurled at me at regular intervals which I innocently answered everytime in affirmative. It was only after the twenty-fifth time in two days that I realized that "being a veggie" was a mild allusion to "being a brahmana". And I said to myself, "There you go again!"

Let alone we Hindus, I was amused and surprised to notice that Catholics in Goa follow the same Caste equations as Hindus and do not marry outside their castes! In fact, one of our ex-landlords had lent us our house only because we were "Brahmanas" and he was what he claimed to be a "Roman-Catholic-Brahmana". One only needs to look at the matrimonial columns of any local Goan newspaper to understand what I said.

All this has made me realize one thing - Caste is not something that can be done away with in our society. In fact, having castes is not a bad thing per se. It is the discrimination that must be checked. No society will ever be rid of castes/classes. In some it is "Brahmana-Kshatriya" equation, in some it follows "Believers/non-believers", in some it follows "comrade/non-comrade", whereas in some it might follow "white/non-white" pattern. There will be different types of people in a group and it is natural for them to form a clique. It is natural human tendency.

In short, Caste is here to stay. I just have to learn to live with the fact that people other than me will be interested in knowing this aspect of my identity.

Thursday, January 12, 2006

Blog profiles

Its been a while since I was introduced to the blog world and in the same while I have also witnessed many of my friends getting initiated into blogging. It is in this 'while' that I have noticed certain patterns emerging in various blogs and it would be interesting to note if my observations are indeed accurate.

Aldrin - A blog for poets, lovers, romantics, artists, losers, Devdas', etc. Definitely not for sane people. One of my favourites.

Ashutosh - If all the comedians of this world were cursed to transform into a blog, they would have probably found themselves embellished in this blog. From crass to sophisiticated, to outright tear-my-hair-out kind, this blog is a sure remedy for someone feeling under the weather.

Rupesh - A site for geeks who seek truth of life not just in formulae but also in children, family, weather, I, you, me and practically everything conceivable. It is a reflection of a balanced mind that is neither influenced by inebriance of emotions nor ebullience of laughter.

Zoheb - There is something about this blog that makes people want to visit it often inspite of it lying unused for long durations of time. It could probably be attributed to the candidness of the content devoid of hypocrisy that makes it so pleasing to read.

Shyam - This is a secret blog never to be updated and never to be found out by anyone unless some idiot like me deliberately publicises it. Blurty Management is still hoping (in vain, I am sure) that the 10 Mega bytes of space that they have isolated for this user would one day be put to use. We too are waiting.

Billu - Well, there are some like Shyam who create blogs to create them, and there are some who create blogs to announce to the world that they have created one. Billu dear falls in the latter category. A blog was created for him (by someone else) on which he cared to post a couple of entries to inform the world that he knew how to blog. I am guessing that the next post on that blog will be the one announcing his marriage to his beloved.

Well, that's it. Maybe, someone will carry out more profiles of their friends' blogs for us to visit them and know more about them.

Friday, January 6, 2006

99.00

It is finally belled... don't ask me how. 'Tis a mystery to me too.

While ABC don't find me good enough, ILK do.

ps: the period of confustion ensues.

pps: please help

who has the answers?

1. Why does one who desperately wants something does not get it, but one who does not want it as much gets it anyway.

2. Why does the girl a guy falls in love with never loves him. If there is a girl who loves a guy, then why doesn't he find her attractive?

3. Why does a human being want to be remembered after his life?

4. Why are we afraid of darkness and death when they are as obvious as light and life?

5. How does a child learn to learn?

6. Is love an attribute cultivated or genetically encoded?

Any ideas?